Andre Dubas
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This blog topic/question was hard for me! I had to put some serious thought time into something that has become my responsibility by accident. As I thought through my life and my experiences, I had a hard time coming up with something that I felt had become my responsibility. When I had almost given up; however, a thought sprang into my head. So here it goes---
I have a friend. We have been close for a very long time, and we have known each other since we were both small. Over the years, we have had our ups and downs, happy times, and sad times. We have laughed together, cried together, smiled together, and yelled together! (HAHA) Anyway, this person is doing some things and acting in some ways that I do not agree with. They have gotten themselves into some things that are over their head over the past year. As they were doing these things, our relationship drifted farther and farther away. It came to the point where we did not speak. As time progressed and they came slightly back to their senses, I gave room for reconciliation and forgiveness. The person seemed to have a very humble attitude, so I forgave and we went on from there. We have become so close and pretty much best friends so fast. This person tells me everything and comes to me for advice because they trust me and don't want to fall to the wayside once more. I try to help this person out all I can, without putting to much stress on myself. They do require a lot of attention and time! I say all of that to say this: I enjoy being this person's friend, but sometimes I don't understand how we got to be "best friends". I have a responsibility to them because I am the only true friend they have and trust. I did not choose to be in such a high standing place with them. They just chose me, and they chose to open up to me. Sometimes it feels like more of a burden than a blessing, but then I must look at it from the point of view that I am helping them! I may be the only help the see. So, really all of the time, tears, sweat, and stress it causes...is worth it!
:)lgj
I think it is worth it. I have a friend at work that has a lot of family problems. She wants to talk about them all the time. She is always very negative. I know she needs someone to talk to but sometimes I get tired of hearing it over and over again. I try to remember she may need to get it off her chest. She always asks "what would you do" when I give a suggestion she just says no that won't work. She wants others and I to pray for her but she is not always willing to say what for. She is the type of person that is very depressing. But, I think what if I didn't listen or try to help? She would probably not confide in me anymore and what if something happened to her because she thought no one cared. So I try to listen and be a friend that cares.
ReplyDeleteI have a friend (a few, actually). I think until she (or he) comes to a place where he/she realizes that the only person who change things is him/herSELF, the best we can do to help is to LISTEN.....
ReplyDeleteI agree! That is the best thing we can do. Unfortunately, this friend at the moment is upset with me. Sometimes it is hard to stand for what is right, even when it costs a friendship. I am praying that they will turn and realize that what we have been through is worth more than a misunderstanding.
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